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Maybe you’ve heard people say “I’ll get to it tomorrow,” or “It can wait,” or I’m not in the mood right now.” If you’ve heard these statements or perhaps said them yourself, you are affected by procrastination, which affects a lot of people. It can drive you absolutely crazy and/or upset the people around you.

Procrastination is a complex psychological behaviour that affects many people. Some people deal with it to some degree, while others have a hard time with it. It can go hand in hand with perfectionism. It is a means of avoiding some type of action or task.

People who suffer from procrastination can suffer from stress, a sense of guilt, loss of productivity, and a lot of yelling at and from others! If you suffer from procrastination, you know your responsibilities, but you don’t want to act on them. You just don’t want to commit. Procrastination can be normal if is kept at in balance, but when you allow it to interfere in your life, it becomes a problem. In order to be able to escape from the grip of this unwelcome condition, people need to understand the whole concept of procrastination, including where it came from and why people get it.

Procrastination has both psychological and physiological causes. The psychological causes can depend on the situation or element the person faces. Such conditions can include anxiety, low sense of self-worth, and a mentality where the person gives up easily. Procrastinators have also been known to have a higher level of conscientiousness. However, this high level is based more on what they wish they can do, but can’t because perfectionism holds them back. In many situations the person simply feels out of control, and so may resort to delaying a task, or avoiding it all together.

People who suffer from procrastination are aware of what is happening. It can actually lead some people to depression or even suicide, and it can be involved with other kinds of dysfunction, such as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD).

Although procrastination can be considered a behavioural problem, any other symptoms that are developed around this condition
can be treated with medication. Hopefully, once the indirect conditions are treated, the resulting effect can also lessen the occurrence of procrastination. Certain medications have been known to help a person increase his attention span or even improve his overall mood. Therapy can also be considered helpful, especially if the therapy can remove any underlying causes that created the behaviour, like fear or anxiety. The basic premise is that it increases the person’s ability to lead a normal life. This is why procrastinators should see a therapist or psychiatrist to see if there is anything beneath the surface that is causing their problems.

Those who are diagnosed as being procrastinators could find themselves getting addicted to such things as using their computer a lot, or using the Internet quite often. It starts with a compulsion to do something so as to avoid reality.  Sothey take part in some kind of activity like surfing the web or playing a video game. So, watch how much time you spend on Twitter, Facebook, MySpace, etc. 

Procrastination is like diabetes – there are different types. One is referred to as the relaxed type the other one is the tense-afraid type. The relaxed type views responsibilities in a negative way and avoids them by doing other kinds of tasks.
An example of this is for a child to avoid doing his homework so he can play his video game. In practical terms, this is known as denial. Basically, the procrastinator does everything to avoid any situation that is not pleasurable. People who see these types think they are avoiding work but, in reality, they are simply trying to evade the issue.

The tense-afraid type is usually overwhelmed with a lot of pressure, and doesn’t have a solid concept of time. They are uncertain about their goals and may even have a lot of negative feelings. They often feel they can’t focus so as to complete their job. So what they do is keep telling themselves they need to unwind and relax. They want to take it easy for the time being and start anew the next day. The only problem is the next day brings the same results. This relaxing they do eventually places more stress on them because they end up getting too close to a deadline and have to rush to get the assigned work done. Then the person feels guilty for having delayed getting it done when they had plenty of time.

Unfortunately, they repeat the same thing over and over again. They go from trying to accomplish a task to failure and delay. They constantly put off plans and goals knowing they can’t complete them. The problem with this arrangement is that they can’t be depended on for anything nor can they be trusted. They become uncertain about their goals and this makes them feel awkward, especially when they are around people who have it together and are goal-oriented.

Procrastinators do have a rough time of it emotionally, mentally, and even physically. But as you can learn in our ebook, this problem can be controlled or even eliminated once you know more about the condition and how to get rid of it. The biggest concern is to acknowledge you have it and take steps to change your behaviour. By following certain procedures and guidelines, you may just find that procrastination can be a thing of the past.

Understanding it and getting clear as to its functions and causes will go a long way toward helping you to deal with it. It is just a matter of knowing where it originates. This is one way you can treat it. By knowing the source of the problem, you can take the correct steps to ensure that this problem will not raise its ugly head again.

If you are one of those less fortunate to have procrastination, you are not alone. Did you know that even children can become procrastinators? It is a behaviour problem, usually a learned behaviour. If you find that procrastination has taken over your life, this book should help you remove the resistance and get back in the flow of your life.  It’s for people who truly want to take action in key areas of their lives but, for some reason, they feel unsure,  stuck or demotivated (possibly because they’ve tried before and it hasn’t worked). And let’s face it, the world of online business is so vast, it can be pretty overwhelming!

There is always a motivating purpose behind everything you choose to do.  Master these and get greater control in your life, business and career.  When you’re back in the flow, you’ll also have a calm confidence when taking on new activities and an increased feeling of personal freedom and a lot more energy and time.

So, acknowledge the problem, stop procrastinating and act……  read this ebook now!

(or see http://www.beatprocrastinationnow.com/)

Further help can be gained through engaging with a Quantum Coaching and Consulting coach http://www.qccgroup.com.   We’ll help you identify how to get back on track with those activities that are in your own best interest. As well as the powerful techniques that we’ve put in this ebook, we’ll help you take self-improvement to another level.

Go for it!

Vinden

This was sent to me on New Year’s Day by the delightful Project Manager for our superb membership site software.

Thanks Nam Tran!

As Life / Personal Coaches, this really appealed to me and to my lovely wife, Eve Grace-Kelly. For those of you struggling to kick-start a project or get started with any goal, read on!

A story for the rest of your life

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say,
“Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over.”
I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead
“I will come next Tuesday”,
I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy.
Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there.
When I finally walked into my daughter Carolyn’s
house I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children.
I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.

I told my daughter, “Forget the daffodils, Carolyn!
The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and
there is nothing in the world except you and my grandchildren
that I want to see right now.  I don’t want to drive another inch!”

My daughter smiled calmly and said,
“We drive in this weather all the time, mother.”

“Well, you won’t get me back on the road until it clears,
and then I’m heading for home!” I assured her.

“But first we’re going to see the daffodils.
It’s just a few blocks,” Carolyn said. “I’ll drive. I’m used to this.”

“Carolyn,” I said sternly,

“It’s all right, Mother, I promise.
You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience.”

So we went!
After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road
and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church,
I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read,

“Daffodil Garden —->”

We got out of the car, each of us took a child’s hand,
and I followed Carolyn down the path.
Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped.
Before me lay the most glorious sight.
It looked as though someone had taken
a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak
and its surrounding slopes.

The flowers were planted in majestic,
swirling patterns, great ribbons
and swaths of deep orange,
creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink,
and saffron and butter yellow.
Each different-colored variety was planted
in large groups so that it swirled
and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue.

There were five acres of flowers!

“Who did this?” I asked Carolyn.
“Just one woman,” Carolyn answered.
“She lives on the property. That’s her home.”
Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house,
small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory.

We walked up to the house.
On the patio, we saw a poster.

“Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking”
was the headline.

The first answer was a simple one. “50,000 bulbs,” it read.

The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two
feet, and one brain.”

The third answer was, “Began in 1958.”

For me, that moment was a life-changing experience.
I thought of this woman whom I had never met,
who, more than forty years before, had begun,
one bulb at a time, to bring her vision
of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop.

Planting one bulb at a time, year after year,
this unknown woman had forever changed
the world in which she lived.
One day at a time, she had created something
of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught me
is one of the greatest principles of celebration.
That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time.

“It makes me sad in a way,” I admitted to Carolyn.
“What might I have accomplished
if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five
or forty years ago and had worked away at it
‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years?

Just think what I might have been able to achieve!”
My daughter summed up the message of the day
in her usual direct way.

“Start tomorrow,” she said.

She was right.
It’s so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays.
The way to make learning a lesson of celebration
instead of a cause for regret is to only ask,
“How can I put this to use today?”

The Daffodil Principle.

Stop waiting…..
Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you clean the house
Until you organize the garage
Until you clean off your desk
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until the kids go to school
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die…

There is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So work like you don’t need money.
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
and, Dance like no one’s watching.

Wishing you a beautiful, daffodil day!
Don’t be afraid that your life will end,
be afraid that it will never begin.

A very Happy New Year to all of our readers!

Vinden & Eve

It’s always good for the soul to reflect on helping others…..

“I pulled my cab up to the curb and sounded the horn. No one came to the door.

So I walked to the door and knocked. ‘Just a minute’, answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90′s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it like somebody out of a 1940s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knick-knacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware

‘Would you carry my bag out to the car?’ she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. ‘It’s nothing’, I told her. ‘I just
try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated’.

‘Oh, you’re such a good boy’, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, and then asked, ‘Could you drive through town?’

‘It’s not the shortest way,’ I answered quickly.

‘Oh, I don’t mind,’ she said. ‘I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice’.

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. ‘I don’t have any family left,’ she continued. ‘The doctor says I don’t have very long.’
I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

‘What route would you like me to take?’ I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.

We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newly-weds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, ‘I’m tired. Let’s go now’

We drove in silence to the address she had given me.It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

‘How much do I owe you?’ she asked, reaching into her purse.

‘Nothing,’ I said

‘You have to make a living,’ she answered.

‘There are other passengers,’ I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
‘You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,’ she said.

‘Thank you.’

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.

I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift?

What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.

But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID,
OR WHAT YOU SAID, ~BUT~,
THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.”

Happy Holidays to you all.